I love her cause she got her own...

...but dag, she's got too much!

Ask a handful of my friends, and they will tell you that I am quite traditional when it comes to roles that men and women should play. You can attribute this trait to being my mother's daughter.

Once a friend told me that she wanted to get a big screen TV, and I was baffled! I asked her why she'd want to do such a thing if she ever planned on getting married. If she had a 48' screen TV, what did she expect her husband-to-be to have and wouldn't she scare him off? Time has taught me that such things are quite trivial and my thoughts concerning what women can and should own (or not own) has changed a bit.

One thing that I have not changed my mind about, however, is the issue of purchasing a house.

Am I old school in thinking that I might be scaring a man/possible suitor off if I owned a home? How many of you men can honestly say that you won't be just a bit apprehensive if you met a woman and she had her own home, and you had an apartment? Say you get married, would you move into her house without feeling the least bit insecure?

I hear all these songs about women being independent these days, and this thought crosses my mind:

How independent can a woman be, before she comes off as not needing a man and therefore scaring him off?

[Title taken from the song: "She got her own" by Ne-Yo featuring Jamie Foxx and Fabolous]